Integrity is something that a lot of people really dont understand. Don't get me wrong. i'm not saying that I'm the proooooo in knowledge regarding integrity, but i know a lot about it.. A lot that I feel like other people don't know, and thats the reason why im about to share some knowledgeeeee... so, lets gooooooooooooooooo!!
First of all, im a woman. or a lady yet to become a full blown woman... I would call my mom a woman... and im not even halfway there yet so yeah, im a lady.. a young lady.. There are some things that we need to understand about young ladies.. Every young lady wants to feel beautiful. Every young lady wants to feel loved and wanted. Every young lady wants to feel among her friends. Every young lady wants some degree of appreciation.. Every young lady wants respect... Every young lady wants... something.
I have felt all those before. But have you heard the saying that "It's not what happens to you that matters, but what you do with what happens to you"? you probably have, and if you havent, you just did. So yeah, what do you do about those feelings? how do you satisfy your wants and your needs as a young lady?.. thats where all this talk of integrity comes into play.
I look around me everyday and a lot of young ladies are getting things all twisted. They feel like they have to go many extra miles to satisfy those feelings that they get. Guaranteed... those feelings eat you up... i'm not denying that. But why go the extra mile to get a feeling thats only temporary? .. Here's what im talking about. If you feel wanted, and you give up yourself to someone to be wanted, its a temporary feeling. He'll want you, but once you give it all up, whats left for him to want? He wont want you anymore, and then you'll go right back to square one - the feeling of being wanted. ...Or you want to be appreciated, so you go all out to make yourself sexy and all so everyone has something nice to say about you. You put up pictures of you half nude up on all the social networks so people can see you, think you're hot, and comment on your pictures... like that'll make you feel good. yes it does,.. ooooooh yes it does... but when the comments stop coming, you go right back to square one - wanting to be appreciated.... Or...you want to feel among your friends, so you go the extra mile to do what your friends are doing to feel so among. You struggle so hard to get enough money to buy that 100 dollar dress that everyones getting, but when the occassion is over, you go right back to square one - strugging to be and feel among...
I could give many more instances where this feelings are only satisfied temporarily, but see my point is this.. the moment you start taking extra miles and stepping ahead of yourself, ts just a cycle. you get satisfied and then in want the next minute... you're never fully satisfied.. and trust me, what every young girl wants is full satisfaction... now here's the recipe to that..
As hard as it may sound or be, you need to learn to love yourself. thats always the first step. because the major thing that pushes you to go that silly extra mile is discontentment.youre not content with yourself and you keep wanting more. you're looking so much at shaping yourself into others, than you are at shaping yourself into you.. You need to learn to be content and accept yoursef for who you are.
Secondly, you need to learn to find the confidence that lies within you. Confidence brings out the beautiful side of you automatically. it makes you who you are at youre core, and gives you more value for yourself. Thirdly, find your style and go with it... if you love to wear ugs, wear ugs. If you love to wear a lot of makeup, go for it.. do whatever makes you comfortable according to your style. dont try to change for anyone or anything..
When you find satisfaction without trying sooo hard, it'll last, because then youve found it with your natural and true person. you're not becoming someone else, or giving something up, or trying so hard... its all just as natural as it could get. if your friends dont love you for you, find people who will.. if a man gets upset cause you wont give him sex, then he really doesnt love you... someone who loves you will definately come along. Put your clothes on, and feel beautiful and confident.. trust me, you'll get the satisfaction that youre looking for...a satisfaction that showing your nudity to the world cannot bring...
I've tried it.... and it ALL works for me... im very content, happy, and i'm living my life loving God everyday...and thats where i get my strength...
Don't try to lose your integrity because youre trying to satisfy your feelings... Integrity is very easy to lose, and very hard to keep... Don't lose it.... :-)
well thats about integrity.... as i do it..
~***shanpepe***~
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